IT’s Here!! YOMO | Web Series | Episode 1: The African, Asian Persuasion

For any of ya’ll who may have missed the YOMO Blog behind it all, here is a chance to catch up!!  Enjoy, and let us know what you think!xXx

When Life Gives You Lemons…Create Your Own Show!

YOMO – You only Marry Once.

From previous blurbs, many of you may already know what a YOMO is. So now is time to fess up about where it all came about. 

Our friendship formed nearly 9 years ago when we joined a theatre group. In the months of rehearsal, crushes were developed and in true girl mode; we giggled and hypothesised the whole affair and as a result we bonded.

In case you hadn’t gathered, we are two actresses living in London who also happen to be best friends. As actors, we can be out of work up to 95% of the time, and when there are opportunities to work, sadly for us, it is not always representative of our truths and our stories especially coming from a colourful ethnic background.

So we decided to merge our creative talents (and struggles) to create something new - a fresh story and a chance to bring to the table an alternative tale. Not just stories of gang violence and forced marriages but stories of friendship, culture, community, family and love.

In this process we searched for common factors in our lives and we certainly had many. We had this pressure and panic to settle down. But where did this sudden panic come from? After many years of being care free and going with the flow of life and dating, something seemed to have shifted as we approached the age of 30. It was almost as if a deadline for a husband was on! 

Also from being in each other’s pockets, we soon got harassed by each other’s parents asking us when we would be bringing lovely husbands home and giving them grandchildren. It was amazing, one household was Bangladeshi and the other Ghanaian, but the plights of our parents were pretty much the same.

We also found that even though we were (and still very much are!) looking for that Mr Right, the dating scene was hard. The more we told our stories to our friends the more they found our scenarios relatable and quite frankly comical…. We also realised that everyone had similar stories and suddenly a star was born. We knew that our story could provide some sort of light relief to others facing the same problems and to know that they were not alone.

From that we decided to create some lemonade with those lemons that were constantly being served to us and we created the concept of a comedy series based around our dating (or should I say – attempted) dating diaries..

Before you knew it, we had a 22 episode script, an amazing production team and a brilliant cast to go with it.  After several months of careful, script editing, schedule planning and research, we then managed to confirm an amazing film crew to film the whole series for us - now this is the shortened version of events.

It was hard at times, but there is no doubt in our minds that every obstacle was placed there for a reason. The universe was good to us, because with every cloud came a silver lining.

After almost a year from the concept being born, we are incredibly excited to be able to share with you the pilot of the comedy series YOMO, which will go live of the Ment2Excel Digital Youtube Channel, Next Wednesday 9th July 2014, 9pm.

After holding a private screening of the Pilot, last Tuesday 1st July with the very hospitable Channel 4 at their building, we were overwhelmed by how well it was received and incredibly encouraged by how much of the audience related to our story.

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The night exceeded all expectations and made us ready to embark on the next chapter of the YOMO journey.

So to make a final point, the genuine search for husbands for both YO&MO is very much real.  And we personally feel what many YOMO’s are going through. A very dear acting coach; Ivana Chubbuck always says, use your obstacles in life to get what you want and not become a victim of your circumstances, but let it be the impetus to make you the person you were meant to be…

So one thing we have definitely learnt from this part of our YOMO journey is that everything whether it’s good or bad, can be the very thing that drives you to your destiny, No one tires of stories of love and the struggle to find it, so with that we present YOMO. A lot of love was put into this. Through the love and support of others you’ve helped us create our very own show and for that we are thankful! We now present to you ‘YOMO’…And we really hope you enjoy it!

Much love Yo and Mo.

xx

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When Life Gives You Lemons…Create Your Own Show!
YOMO – You only Marry Once.

From previous blurbs, many of you may already know what a YOMO is. So now is time to fess up about where it all came about. 

Our friendship formed nearly 9 years ago when we joined a theatre group. In the months of rehearsal, crushes were developed and in true girl mode; we giggled and hypothesised the whole affair and as a result we bonded.

In case you hadn’t gathered, we are two actresses living in London who also happen to be best friends. As actors, we can be out of work up to 95% of the time, and when there are opportunities to work, sadly for us, it is not always representative of our truths and our stories especially coming from a colourful ethnic background.

So we decided to merge our creative talents (and struggles) to create something new - a fresh story and a chance to bring to the table an alternative tale. Not just stories of gang violence and forced marriages but stories of friendship, culture, community, family and love.

In this process we searched for common factors in our lives and we certainly had many. We had this pressure and panic to settle down. But where did this sudden panic come from? After many years of being care free and going with the flow of life and dating, something seemed to have shifted as we approached the age of 30. It was almost as if a deadline for a husband was on! 

Also from being in each other’s pockets, we soon got harassed by each other’s parents asking us when we would be bringing lovely husbands home and giving them grandchildren. It was amazing, one household was Bangladeshi and the other Ghanaian, but the plights of our parents were pretty much the same. 

We also found that even though we were (and still very much are!) looking for that Mr Right, the dating scene was hard. The more we told our stories to our friends the more they found our scenarios relatable and quite frankly comical…. We also realised that everyone had similar stories and suddenly a star was born. We knew that our story could provide some sort of light relief to others facing the same problems and to know that they were not alone.

From that we decided to create some lemonade with those lemons that were constantly being served to us and we created the concept of a comedy series based around our dating (or should I say – attempted) dating diaries..

Before you knew it, we had a 22 episode script, an amazing production team and a brilliant cast to go with it.  After several months of careful, script editing, schedule planning and research, we then managed to confirm an amazing film crew to film the whole series for us - now this is the shortened version of events.

It was hard at times, but there is no doubt in our minds that every obstacle was placed there for a reason. The universe was good to us, because with every cloud came a silver lining. 

After almost a year from the concept being born, we are incredibly excited to be able to share with you the pilot of the comedy series YOMO, which will go live of the Ment2Excel Digital Youtube Channel, Next Wednesday 9th July 2014, 9pm.

After holding a private screening of the Pilot, last Tuesday 1st July with the very hospitable Channel 4 at their building, we were overwhelmed by how well it was received and incredibly encouraged by how much of the audience related to our story.


The night exceeded all expectations and made us ready to embark on the next chapter of the YOMO journey.

So to make a final point, the genuine search for husbands for both YO&MO is very much real.  And we personally feel what many YOMO’s are going through. A very dear acting coach; Ivana Chubbuck always says, use your obstacles in life to get what you want and not become a victim of your circumstances, but let it be the impetus to make you the person you were meant to be…

So one thing we have definitely learnt from this part of our YOMO journey is that everything whether it’s good or bad, can be the very thing that drives you to your destiny, No one tires of stories of love and the struggle to find it, so with that we present YOMO. A lot of love was put into this. Through the love and support of others you’ve helped us create our very own show and for that we are thankful! We now present to you ‘YOMO’…And we really hope you enjoy it! 


Much love Yo and Mo.


xx

When Life Gives You Lemons…Create Your Own Show!

YOMO – You only Marry Once.

From previous blurbs, many of you may already know what a YOMO is. So now is time to fess up about where it all came about. 

Our friendship formed nearly 9 years ago when we joined a theatre group. In the months of rehearsal, crushes were developed and in true girl mode; we giggled and hypothesised the whole affair and as a result we bonded.

In case you hadn’t gathered, we are two actresses living in London who also happen to be best friends. As actors, we can be out of work up to 95% of the time, and when there are opportunities to work, sadly for us, it is not always representative of our truths and our stories especially coming from a colourful ethnic background.

So we decided to merge our creative talents (and struggles) to create something new - a fresh story and a chance to bring to the table an alternative tale. Not just stories of gang violence and forced marriages but stories of friendship, culture, community, family and love.

In this process we searched for common factors in our lives and we certainly had many. We had this pressure and panic to settle down. But where did this sudden panic come from? After many years of being care free and going with the flow of life and dating, something seemed to have shifted as we approached the age of 30. It was almost as if a deadline for a husband was on! 

Also from being in each other’s pockets, we soon got harassed by each other’s parents asking us when we would be bringing lovely husbands home and giving them grandchildren. It was amazing, one household was Bangladeshi and the other Ghanaian, but the plights of our parents were pretty much the same.

We also found that even though we were (and still very much are!) looking for that Mr Right, the dating scene was hard. The more we told our stories to our friends the more they found our scenarios relatable and quite frankly comical…. We also realised that everyone had similar stories and suddenly a star was born. We knew that our story could provide some sort of light relief to others facing the same problems and to know that they were not alone.

From that we decided to create some lemonade with those lemons that were constantly being served to us and we created the concept of a comedy series based around our dating (or should I say – attempted) dating diaries..

Before you knew it, we had a 22 episode script, an amazing production team and a brilliant cast to go with it.  After several months of careful, script editing, schedule planning and research, we then managed to confirm an amazing film crew to film the whole series for us - now this is the shortened version of events.

It was hard at times, but there is no doubt in our minds that every obstacle was placed there for a reason. The universe was good to us, because with every cloud came a silver lining.

After almost a year from the concept being born, we are incredibly excited to be able to share with you the pilot of the comedy series YOMO, which will go live of the Ment2Excel Digital Youtube Channel, Next Wednesday 9th July 2014, 9pm.

After holding a private screening of the Pilot, last Tuesday 1st July with the very hospitable Channel 4 at their building, we were overwhelmed by how well it was received and incredibly encouraged by how much of the audience related to our story.

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The night exceeded all expectations and made us ready to embark on the next chapter of the YOMO journey.

So to make a final point, the genuine search for husbands for both YO&MO is very much real.  And we personally feel what many YOMO’s are going through. A very dear acting coach; Ivana Chubbuck always says, use your obstacles in life to get what you want and not become a victim of your circumstances, but let it be the impetus to make you the person you were meant to be…

So one thing we have definitely learnt from this part of our YOMO journey is that everything whether it’s good or bad, can be the very thing that drives you to your destiny, No one tires of stories of love and the struggle to find it, so with that we present YOMO. A lot of love was put into this. Through the love and support of others you’ve helped us create our very own show and for that we are thankful! We now present to you ‘YOMO’…And we really hope you enjoy it!

Much love Yo and Mo.

xx

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Don’t Eat The Sand Dagnabbit
Four chains of events lead me to write this next post.  Three of my girlies had all ended up in scenarios of where I shared the same piece of advice that I had stumbled upon a few days earlier, strange, but true…

Girlie 1 had been seeing a young (well eight years her junior to be exact) man for a few months now, although, after today’s date something seems to have changed, as their conversations directed more towards what they were both looking for and when she mentioned she was ready for kids, she informed that he was all too quick to shut down any future talk (however, he did mention that he would still like to have some fun, hmph I’ll bet….

Girlie 2 had been seeing a guy, which started off as ‘a bit off fun’, but was now confused as to where the relationship was going.

Girlie 3 had been on and off with a guy for a number of years now, but has just discovered that she was not his only one.

As I conversed with my three beautiful friends, one common theme arose.  They were all upset about trying to end/ ending a relationship that they were holding on to for the wrong reasons.

I feel they all knew this so didn’t really need my persuasion, but more reassurance that they were all making the right decisions.
I was then reminded of a little story I read by Max Lucado from ‘The Word 4 Today’ a couple of days earlier:


“When my daughter, Jenna, was little I often took her to a park near our home. One day as she played in a sandbox, I bought her ice-cream, but when I turned to give it to her, her mouth was full of sand. Where I had intended to put a delicacy, she had put dirt. Did I love her with dirt in her mouth?  Absolutely. Was I going to allow her to keep the dirt in her mouth? No way!  I loved her where she was, but I refused to leave her there.  Why?  Because I love her.  God does the same for us.  “Spit out the dirt, honey,” our Father urges. “I’ve got something better for you.” “I can eat dirt if I want to!” we pout and proclaim.  Which is true—we can. But if we do, the loss is ours. God has a better offer.  He wants us to be like Jesus!.”


http://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today-23510.html

As human beings we all crave companionship and when someone is filling that gap it feels nice, comfortable and safe, but not necessarily right, here is where we can start munching on the sand.

It is all too easy to stick with being ‘comfortable’ and ‘safe’ when in our hearts we want and know we deserve more.  I think this is where we have to take that leap of faith, 'Let Go & Let God' and trust that God has a better plan and where we will always have free will to “eat the sand”, if we learn to trust in God he will give you the best Ice Cream Sunday you could ever imagine.  I think ‘ll have mine with a side of Lonnie Rashid Lynn Please ;)


~Yo

Don’t Eat The Sand Dagnabbit

Four chains of events lead me to write this next post.  Three of my girlies had all ended up in scenarios of where I shared the same piece of advice that I had stumbled upon a few days earlier, strange, but true…

Girlie 1 had been seeing a young (well eight years her junior to be exact) man for a few months now, although, after today’s date something seems to have changed, as their conversations directed more towards what they were both looking for and when she mentioned she was ready for kids, she informed that he was all too quick to shut down any future talk (however, he did mention that he would still like to have some fun, hmph I’ll bet….

Girlie 2 had been seeing a guy, which started off as ‘a bit off fun’, but was now confused as to where the relationship was going.

Girlie 3 had been on and off with a guy for a number of years now, but has just discovered that she was not his only one.

As I conversed with my three beautiful friends, one common theme arose.  They were all upset about trying to end/ ending a relationship that they were holding on to for the wrong reasons.

I feel they all knew this so didn’t really need my persuasion, but more reassurance that they were all making the right decisions.

I was then reminded of a little story I read by Max Lucado from ‘The Word 4 Today’ a couple of days earlier:

“When my daughter, Jenna, was little I often took her to a park near our home. One day as she played in a sandbox, I bought her ice-cream, but when I turned to give it to her, her mouth was full of sand. Where I had intended to put a delicacy, she had put dirt. Did I love her with dirt in her mouth?  Absolutely. Was I going to allow her to keep the dirt in her mouth? No way!  I loved her where she was, but I refused to leave her there.  Why?  Because I love her.  God does the same for us.  “Spit out the dirt, honey,” our Father urges. “I’ve got something better for you.” “I can eat dirt if I want to!” we pout and proclaim.  Which is true—we can. But if we do, the loss is ours. God has a better offer.  He wants us to be like Jesus!.”

http://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today-23510.html

As human beings we all crave companionship and when someone is filling that gap it feels nice, comfortable and safe, but not necessarily right, here is where we can start munching on the sand.

It is all too easy to stick with being ‘comfortable’ and ‘safe’ when in our hearts we want and know we deserve more.  I think this is where we have to take that leap of faith, 'Let Go & Let God' and trust that God has a better plan and where we will always have free will to “eat the sand”, if we learn to trust in God he will give you the best Ice Cream Sunday you could ever imagine.  I think ‘ll have mine with a side of Lonnie Rashid Lynn Please ;)

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~Yo

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YOMO Gripe Of The Week - #2 The Baby Shower Vs The Singles Shower
I am blessed with an array of loving family and friends who mean the world to me, however, the YOMO gripe of the week is…. #The Baby Shower.

I get invited to at least four of these a year and I am so happy to share this special time with my expectant friends and family, but when the heck did they become so frequent?!! As much as I do love a good shower, the pockets do not.  And I am finding, more and more that it has almost become more of an official obligation, where you now get a list of things you can and can’t buy!

N.B. Now I am only gassing about this now and once my kids are on the way you best believe ima be throwing me a bucket full of showers.  However, its like are loved ones almost forget what it is like for the struggling singleton!! My single friends and I have therefore recently been toying with the idea of throwing a ‘Singles Shower’.

Same principle but to aid us in our mission for finding a partner.  In fact there is an All Saints Blazer I have had my eye on since October last year, I may have been able to afford it if I hadn’t been to so many showers since then, so I think it is only right that we should mark this occasion with a shower, what ya’ll think?  and before you make any hasty judgement’s here’s the Blazer, I mean just look at those lapels <3

#YOMOSinglesShower    if you agree or     #NOMOSinglesShower    if not!

~Yo


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YOMO Gripe Of The Week - #2 The Baby Shower Vs The Singles Shower

I am blessed with an array of loving family and friends who mean the world to me, however, the YOMO gripe of the week is…. #The Baby Shower.

I get invited to at least four of these a year and I am so happy to share this special time with my expectant friends and family, but when the heck did they become so frequent?!! As much as I do love a good shower, the pockets do not.  And I am finding, more and more that it has almost become more of an official obligation, where you now get a list of things you can and can’t buy!

N.B. Now I am only gassing about this now and once my kids are on the way you best believe ima be throwing me a bucket full of showers.  However, its like are loved ones almost forget what it is like for the struggling singleton!! My single friends and I have therefore recently been toying with the idea of throwing a ‘Singles Shower’.

Same principle but to aid us in our mission for finding a partner.  In fact there is an All Saints Blazer I have had my eye on since October last year, I may have been able to afford it if I hadn’t been to so many showers since then, so I think it is only right that we should mark this occasion with a shower, what ya’ll think?  and before you make any hasty judgement’s here’s the Blazer, I mean just look at those lapels <3

#YOMOSinglesShower    if you agree or     #NOMOSinglesShower    if not!

~Yo

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YOMO Random Quote Of The Day



We love this ‘YOMO Random Quote Of The Day’, by the late great Bob Marley &lt;3 Referenced by Mo in today&#8217;s Recovering Undercover Overlover Part 2! Check out with the link below:
Recovering Undercover Overlover Part 2 - The time Wasters

YOMO Random Quote Of The Day

We love this ‘YOMO Random Quote Of The Day’, by the late great Bob Marley <3 Referenced by Mo in today’s Recovering Undercover Overlover Part 2! Check out with the link below:

Recovering Undercover Overlover Part 2 - The time Wasters

Recovering Undercover Overlover Part 2 - The time Wasters

‘The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her’. - Bob Marley

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Sometimes a person can be lead on to the point, where your very being is consumed. You love them so much and what you experience is a deep yet dulling pain where your heart is. ‘Unrequited love’ well and truly sucks and you get so annoyed with yourself, because before you know it a year or ten has passed by. What is that pull that this other person has over you? You could have played things very differently (and you are stupid) but what is it really all about?

A Bob Marley quote that deeply resonates with me is:

"The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her". - Bob Marley

I don’t want to place the blame on just one side as it takes two to tango. But respect is often forgotten. Women need to be smarter and men need to be kind enough to know when to pull back because they’re in too deep.

These time wasters give off the vibe that they’re your man; they mark their territory to a point that no one else will come and talk to you on a night out. They call you up and ask if you want to spend a day bar hopping – I mean a WHOLE day! They want the very best of you and want to give nothing in return.

You’re now their fountain of knowledge; they like a new girl and they want advice. They talk about the girls that they’ve flirted with. I mean WTF?!?!  Your friends and his agree that you’re perfect for one another. You’re invited to chill with the boys. When embarrassingly awkward conversations arise of who their ideal partner is, it’s almost deliberate that the girl they describe is the polar opposite to you yet; they keep their hand on your knee a little longer than they should. They flirt, and then there might be a kiss. The glances, the insane amount of fun that you’re clearly both having and lets rewind – YES the kiss - yes that happened.

Who’s at fault here?  Love should be loved from the heart and not the head right? Does it get any easier? I really hope so - these fools that I’m dealing with are really getting on my last nerve and this seems to be a journey of epic proportions.

~Mo

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14 Ways You Know You’re A YOMO

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Amazingly there are many YOMO’s out there who despite, being modestly attractive, smart, ambitious, generous, solid young women, are still however, finding it difficult to meet the one.

You know you are a YOMO when any of the following apply to you:

1.    When you now watch Bridget Jones Diary, you find yourself relating to most of the content.

2.    All your friends who are in relationships, now feel they are relationship gurus, offering dating advice on where you are “going wrong”.  Even though you may have actually been the one who hooked them up with their current spouse :s

3.    You forget how to date, like seriously all of a sudden you become a novice at even how to sit comfortably on a date, what the heck?

4.    You feel incredibly awkward bringing any platonic friend home, to social gathers or around friends as it is automatically assumed that you are dating them.

 5.    Desperation kicks in and the standards of having someone who is intelligent, funny, ambitious, fwine, respectful and generous lower to just having one of the above.

6.    As you do not have your own wedding, babies or new home as yet, an average of say 25% of your income goes to everybody else’s wedding, babies, new homes…

7.    Everyone you know wants to set you up with someone who they think would be “just perfect for you”.

8.    You have succumbed to online dating, and if you haven’t yet, oh my friend you will!

9.    You become a serial stalker - fear not this doesn’t last for long

10. You get a plus 1 to wedding invites with your best friends name on it.

11. You haven’t dated in so long that it has been assumed that you are homosexual

12. You cannot be in the same room with a parent for longer than a couple of hours without the topic of conversation moving towards when you will be settling down

13. You have had that “perfect date outfit” sitting in your wardrobe for over 6 months now yet with no date and are now wishing you had just worn it out already!

14. You go to a wedding’s, christening’s and pretty much any social gathering dressed to the nines, in the hopes of meeting a potential suitor

The YOMO resolve:

1.    Enjoy yourself, being single is actually fun, many of our friends who are in relationships actually miss the whole excitement of dating.

2.    Do not over think things if a guy is/isn’t interested you will know about it, keep things moving.

3.    Never settle, but be open to meeting people and getting to know them, even if it doesn’t work with them, you never know they could have a friend for you ;)

4.    Join your fellow YOMO sisters whilst we see this thing out together.

 

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Recovering Undercover Overlover Part 1 - Just A Crush?

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What happens when a crush stops being fun? And does exactly what it says on the tin and starts to crush you. It’s so easy to tell someone to stop liking someone else, but more often than not, we crazy women go into full whack stalker mode. We begin to fabricate an entire life with these potential partners. We imagine the Sunday brunches and the oh-so-funny conversations to be had.

Every ‘real’ meeting is dissected and you cut yourself up by what you should have said and done. Now comes the talking about the awful tricky bit – the mind games involved. I don’t want to be one of those preachy sisters and start hatin’ on all the brothers, but sometimes a guy feeds off the attention that we girlies give them. They enjoy the phone calls and the text messages.

There are the inappropriate comments and the random drunken snog that you shared that has never been mentioned. Not all men are like this, but the ones that are, are simply time wasters. They don’t want to label what’s happening. They’re hot and then they’re cold. They tell you that you’re gorgeous and that the man who will eventually end up with you will be the luckiest guy in the world. You may feel brave enough to call them up on their actions – but they supposedly haven’t wanted to hurt you. With a harsh turn of events, they commit to another girl two seconds later. These are a new species of guys. Gone is chivalry – and in its place is a new social and moral code of the unknown.

~Mo

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Q: So lovely ladies... As you were talking about first dates. Is it wrong to be myself and wear trainers? 😉

— Anonymous

Well, first and foremost I think you should always wear something that makes you feel good when you are wearing it….However, I think we also need to take into consideration where you are actually going to on this date, as it’s all well and good wearing your trainers for a trip to the cinema, but if he is taking you to dinner at the Sanderson, then we may have a bit of a problem.  I guess what I always like to think, when I am on a date, is that the person I am with has made an effort to be with me, to make a good ‘first’ impression on me and vice versa, so I guess if you keep that in mind then you will be cool! Good luck!! Oh and check out our post on first dates ‘Reminding Me Of Romance” also when you can ;)x

REMINDING ME OF ROMANCE BLOG

YOMO Random Quote Of The Day
We love this &#8216;YOMO Random Quote Of The Day&#8217;, sent in by Audrey Abraham.  Lets go create some opportunities!

YOMO Random Quote Of The Day

We love this ‘YOMO Random Quote Of The Day’, sent in by Audrey Abraham.  Lets go create some opportunities!

YOMO Gripe of The Week - #1 The ‘Last Seen’ Timestamp

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It’s time to address this.  How many of you have checked in to see whether that person you have been talking to, your ex, your current boyfriend or even someone you don’t really know, but want to get to know, ‘last seen’ timestamp on WhatsApp today?

Now I don’t have a problem with these per se, but I ALMOST fell into the trap that a lot of my friends are currently in.

One friend of mine recently got herself so wound up by constantly checking to see when a guy she was seeing was last online that she had concocted a whole story in her head that every time he went online, he was talking to other girls!

I had to remind my friend that whilst there was a possibility that he could be talking to another girl this “other girl” may very well be his mother.  Regardless of whom he was talking to, it really was not any of her business to concern herself with something that may or may not be true.

Then on the flip side another friend would intentionally stay off of WhatsApp after conversing with her gentleman friend out of fear that he may think she was talking to someone else, oh yes true stories!

I too should really have fallen victim to this trap too, but surprisingly I didn’t, I think what saved me is that I had already given myself a pre mental disclaimer not pay attention to the date stamp when I joined the iphone world and amazingly it seemed to work.  But, I do see how the sweet the temptation can be especially when it is so readily available to see.

So what’s the YOMO resolve:

  • Turn…it…off..  - Quite simple if you know you are going to be tempted remove the temptation.
  • If you don’t have the opt to turn it off, or still find you must keep it on, make a point to not pay attention to it, don’t allow a few letters to have such an impact on you, you are far too important for that
  • And if you still find yourself having to look, remind yourself with a million possibilities of who they could be talking to, reassure yourself that maybe they could actually be doing the same thing as you…

~Yo

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Reminding Me Of Romance

So, I finally got round to checking out Issa Rae’s (awkward black girl creators) new web series “First” and as much as I was cheesing for approximately 95% of it, I came away thinking, now this is the way that things are supposed to be!

I was reminded of how awkward, uncomfortable, embarrassing, but overall exciting it is when you are meeting up with someone for that first time and how much time and effort is made on both parts to leave that long lasting impression.

Looking back over some of my own and fellow YOMO Girlies recent dating experiences, there seems to be a running theme of the dynamics changing, with the Girlies going all out to try and court the guy :s.  Now I don’t think there is anything wrong with splitting a bill here and there or being the one to organise where to go on a first date, however, when you’re the one driving to go and pick up your date? Come on now, surely something has got to give?

I have actually sat down to note a couple of eye brow raising events from recent YOMO dates that have made me question where did all the romance go? Some of my faves along with the reasoning behind them being:

  • Paying for the bill at the end of a date – To show you are not a gold digger
  • Picking up a date – To show how down to earth you are
  • Accepting an invitation to Nandos on a first date (Ok so this one was me and I actually thought it was Ok no? *embarrassed face*)
  • Gone in for the first kiss – To ensure you don’t get into the friends zone
  • Accepted that it is Ok for your date to be dressed in a t-shirt with his face printed on it and trainers for a first date – It was just him expressing himself
  • Bought a funny gift for a guy – To try to break the ice
  • Booked tickets for somewhere random/fun – To show how much you like them

“First” reminded made me that my fellow Girlies and I have pretty much forgotten what the whole dating phase should be about, reminding me of those simple things that can make a girl blush, like a mere compliment on how nice you look, (without being pervy might I add).  This was played exceptionally well by both Jahmela Biggs and Will Catlett, I feel they captured all those things that had momentarily been forgotten, but that I absolutely love about dating, it also helps that Mr Cattlett is most kind on the eyes ;)…anywhoo I digress and before I go into a list of mush and it gets way to cheesy to write, I’ll let ya’ll see for yourselves, Enjoy..

~Yo

Robin and Charles have known each other since Middle School, but have their first date in their late 20s. As the day of surprises unfolds, they quickly realize there is more than friendship in their future. Created by and starring Jahmela Biggs, Directed by James Bland

We Are All Beautiful

One of my friends shared this “TEDTalks” via twitter a little while ago and it always stuck with me. 

Cameron Russell: Looks aren’t everything. Believe me, I’m a model

I think everyone has fallen victim to having some sort of insecurity at some stage in their life, whether it be, looks, career, age, weight, height and so it goes…    

I feel Carmen addressed this from a models perspective beautifully and reminded me at the time that beauty comes in so many different forms and should be recognised and appreciated in both our own as well as others, which reminded me of this lovely quote:

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We really are all beautiful <3

Let’s Discuss – What is this thing called L.O.V.E

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To some of us on this little old planet, the notion of love is important.  But what is love? I’m not about to get into a rendition of that dodgy 90s song by Haddaway, but I’d really like to know.

Someone recently told me that babies are in a perpetual state of being high. Like a hallucinogenic high and slowly their brains bring them into a state of consciousness and reality ever so slowly as it might be too much to comprehend right away. So is the feeling of love like that?  An almost drug induced high?

Scientifically speaking we might be talking about neurons and particles and chemicals whirling around and making us feel things, but really what is it that has us so hooked? Some believe it, some don’t. Some have found it, whilst others are still searching.  A few have been fortunate to have loved more than once.

For many, Love is the be all and end all and for many it isn’t.  What’s your stance on it?

~Mo

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